As I said before, so often what stresses one so… is their relationship involvements. People so easily become the ‘victim’ of a relationship; meaning they think the other person ‘does it to them.’ They forget that they are choosing to stay in the relationship; therefore, they are responsible for the choice they are making. It’s not about the other person.

I believe we can reduce stress in relationships when we make the choice of ‘no conditions’ which many call ‘unconditional love.’ Yet most have no idea what ‘unconditional love’ means. They remain stressed because they are still ‘expecting conditions.’

Expecting to be and get ‘unconditional love’ is still expecting conditions

I believe unconditional love between two people (friends, spouses, work people, etc.) is true, total, having no conditions as to another person. That means we have to accept the good, bad, ugly, beautiful…without attachments or expectations of another person.

Easy, heck no! Probably the furthest from what someone believes ‘unconditional love’ is……………..

It isn’t heavenly and glorious…….it is deep introspective work that continues every moment. It is committing to hanging in there no matter what. ‘No conditions’ allows self and other to be exactly who they are in the moment.

Are there many relationships like this? In my 65 years, I have only seen two examples. I think I’m pretty lucky to even know these two couples. And it certainly doesn’t look like a ‘match made in heaven.’ In both cases…….each spouse is very different (opposites). No one can figure out how they last.

Unconditional love is ‘no conditions’

It is about self. It is about no attachments and letting go… which is so far away from relationship beliefs of today. That’s why these two healthy relationships look completely insane to most around them.

Probably the greatest challenge of life………..love self first (no conditions), and have no conditions about other people.

One can only walk side by side with another. To me, that is the only way it is ‘unconditional love.’ And believe me I still work on this continuously; probably till the day I die. Maybe I’m just a slow learner???